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I wish I could tell my parents

Wed Sep 30, 2009, 9:52 PM
1. My happiness is not the same as your happiness.

2. My beliefs aren't the same as your beliefs.

3. I am not you. You and I grew up with vastly different circumstances. If I believe something, if I choose to behave in a certain way, it will not be as if you were the one doing it in your childhood.

4. I can't be what you thought I would be. I can study. I can draw. But that's it. I can't take your faith, and I can't take the path in life you would have me choose.

5. I am not just a child when it is convenient for you. If you expect me to act like an adult, treat me as an adult, and my opinions as those of an adult, or let me be a child.

6. Don't belittle my opinions and beliefs. Yes, I am still a minor, and no, I don't know everything there is to life. But you don't know everything there is to me, either. And even if to you, my opinions and beliefs seem childish, they are very real to me. Don't just tell me that everything I am now will one day be gone and be replaced by something more like you.

7. This isn't about you, or other people; it's about me, because I am the one who isn't allowed to choose for herself. It doesn't matter that other people are worse. I don't care that your childhood played out this way. What about my life? Aren't I allowed to have my own, instead of shadowing yours?

I told my mom today, I don't want to go to church anymore. And she had been to many churches, and ours was the best one she had ever known. I said, fine. If it's the best church, and that's alright with you, then fine. But it's not fine with me. It's not fine that I still have to go and listen to the things I don't believe, and have it be shoved in my face that I am wrong and they are right. And every time, everytime I try to say otherwise, they won't even listen. She asks me, even if our whole family were still going to church, would you alone decide to go away? What does that matter, what the rest of my family does? Why should I be forced to stay where I'm miserable? She asks me, don't you care what other people think about you?

Why should I? Why am I supposed to be shaped by people around me, the way they think about me, the way they act? Why aren't I allowed to judge for myself what is right and wrong, and act upon it? Why is the church's word absolute? Why should I have to bend my life to something I don't believe?

And what I notice is, of all the atheist people I know, not one tries to make religious people atheist like them. Not one tries to take a religious person from their faith and happiness, to make them see their own version of happiness. It's only the religious people who fight to try and tear the atheists from their happiness and make them see things in their own way.

I've had it.

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Wow. This reminds me of my previous jounal entry.

Your parents are supposed to rule your life; that's just how it works, and I know it sounds like I'm on your parent's side, but listen: My parents are the same way, though I'm perfectly able to do what I want on my own.

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If parents really were meant to rule our lives, then half these artists on this site wouldn't have an opinion of their own. And speaking of opinions, those are things we're supposed to develop on our own, not have them hand fed to us by our parents. That makes us clones and nothing more than characters in SIM games.

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We can have our own opinions, just not our own actions at times; you're right.

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"There is no such thing as a bad person, just a bad deed." - Fue

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That's what my parents are trying to shape: my opinions. My beliefs. They're hoping that by sending me to church every week, I'll somehow see the light and decide to be like them. And you know what's the kicker? They don't even go to church, either. And that's what got me off in the first place. I got sick and tired of sitting alone during church in a room full of families. So I'm not about to sit here and drink in everything they say as truths, when they themselves won't even practice what they preach.

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'Twilight cannot ruin Vampires for one reason and one reason alone: there are no vampires in Twilight, just really cliche closet homosexuals with an added blood fetish for "uniqueness".' - HatsuharuAiava
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...That was slightly offensive, but I'll live.

Your parents are hypocrites is how I think you see it. I see it as your parents don't want you following their mistake of not going and being better people when they're young. My parents so the exact same things.

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"An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure." - Benjamin Franklin

"There is no such thing as a bad person, just a bad deed." - Fue

I claimed Ashisogi Jizou in the ~Bleach-Crew. ^^
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Didn't mean to offend. Sorry for exploding on you.

That's the way I see it. These are my opinions.

But how many times have they told me, it's never too late too change? And how many times have they basically told me, it's too late for them?

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It's all right.

It is too late for them. They're old(er) and you're the next generation to make a difference just like the rest of us. They want you to be able to make that change and have good morales to teach your children to pass down to their children. It's just something parents do.

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"An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure." - Benjamin Franklin

"There is no such thing as a bad person, just a bad deed." - Fue

I claimed Ashisogi Jizou in the ~Bleach-Crew. ^^
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Morals change, though, don't they? The world they lived in isn't the same as ours.
Personally, not to sully Jesus' name or anything, I think the only reason the whole 'homosexuality is evil' thing survived this long is because Jesus said so.

And who says it's too late? I've always heard that it's never too late till you die. Some people say, even after you die, you can still have redemption.

And personally, I don't believe in morals... I believe in personal judgement and acting upon those judgements. .___. But that's different for everyone, I know.

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